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“A problem will get heavier when the only person carrying it is you. Whatever your worry, it’s better out than in.”

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24-year-old who can’t smile due to rare condition signs with modeling agency

Tayla Clement was born with underdeveloped facial nerves that control some eye movements and facial expressions, called Moebius syndrome.

She is known online now as “The Girl Who Can’t Smile” and is the role model she needed growing up, moving past her bullying days when she was made fun of for being different:

“My eyebrows don’t move, my eyes don’t track, and my upper lip doesn’t move, which means I can’t smile, hence the name, ‘The girl who can’t smile,'” she said. “People would bring plastic bags to school to put over my head because I was so ugly and didn’t want to be seen. I think when you grow up, being told that you’re different and you’re ugly and you’re worthless, you believe it because you don’t know anything else.”

“To anyone who doesn’t know me, I would just say I’m the girl who can’t smile,” she said. “I love being able to help others and empower and inspire others. It lights me up so much, and if I could smile, you’d see the biggest smile on my face because it truly lights me up so much.”

Signing with an international modeling agency means more to Clement than photoshoots and fashion shows.

“It makes me quite emotional, but I’m just so grateful that it was me that went through everything because I get to inspire people and help people and it makes me so happy,” said Clement.

“To be so openly accepted and wanted just felt so amazing,” she said. “I had no one to see in movies or in media or on the front of magazines or headlining brands or on like billboards, and so I felt really worthless because I didn’t see myself anywhere.”

Being comfortable with herself, she feels next level happy, free:

“It’s another level of joy and happiness to be so content and comfortable and joyful and happy within who you are as a person, it’s also the most freeing thing in the world,” she said.
(“24-year-old who can’t smile due to rare condition signs with modeling agency”)

You can follow Clement on Instagram.

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Be free spider!

“She asks me to kill the spider. Instead, I get the most peaceful weapons I can find. I take a cup and a napkin. I catch the spider, put it outside and allow it to walk away.

If I am ever caught in the wrong place at the wrong time, just being alive and not bothering anyone, I hope I greeted with the same kind of mercy.”

-Rudy Francisco

We are in the “relocate the spider – don’t hurt them” club,

“I just relocate the spiders outside”

How about you? Vote!

“Spiders freak me out”

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Amy Schumer feels free after sharing about her teenage hair-pulling

Amy Schumer in “I Feel Pretty”

Love Amy Schumer movies, like “Trainwreck” and “I Feel Pretty”; they are so funny! Now Schumer is sharing something more serious, her real life-long struggle with trichotillomania, the compulsive urge to pull out her hair.  She has shared about her struggles with endometriosis, Lyme disease, and even more personal stuff like having a sex life after giving birth, but she has kept her hair-pulling problems to herself, until deciding to include it on her new Hulu dramedy, “Life & Beth”.

“I think everybody has a big secret and that’s mine,” she told The Hollywood Reporter in an interview published Friday. “And I’m proud that my big secret only hurts me but it’s been what I’ve carried so much shame about for so long.”

It all started about 2 years ago, when Schumer decided to wear shorts at the chiropractor and he noticed the scar on her upper thigh, from a very bad surfing accident at 16, which required 41 stitches in 3 layers. The chiropractor attributed her physical pain to her emotional trauma, and Schumer agreed

 “The metaphor that you need to deal with the emotional trauma from the past so you can get out of physical pain was not lost on me,” …After that visit, Schumer realized that “these things aren’t going to go away if we ignore them—the past is just going to keep hurting you,” she says. “When you get to this age, you better evolve if you want to move forward.”
‘It Feels Really Freeing.’ Amy Schumer Lets Go of Teenage Trauma in New Hulu Series Life & Beth

Schumer has been dealing with her trichotillomania since a hard time during her childhood when her dad declared bankruptcy after being diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and her mother left him for the married father of Schumer’s best friend. The hair-pulling became her way of dealing with the stress. She wore a wig to school to cover up a growing bald spot.

This part about her has been weighing her down, until now, after deciding to let go of the shame and just share:

“It’s been the thing that I’ve been most ashamed of,” she says. “It feels really freeing to finally let go of some of that.”

She has learned to deal with the condition:

“it’s not that I used to have this problem and now I don’t. It’s still something that I struggle with.”

And her 3 year old son touching his head reminds her of it too, because of the genetic components of it:

“Every time he touches his head I’m having a heart attack,”

Schumer has found that creating art out of her own troubles has been healing

“When you deal with chronic, often invisible pain, it’s such an isolating sort of private journey,” she said. “You really have to advocate for yourself — and that’s what I’m doing here.”

She does check with her family and friends when including stories related to them on the show “Life & Beth” though:

“I’m really happy to talk about anything that is about me personally,” she said. “But any parts of the show that are based on anyone, I did run by them.”

You can watch Schumer this Sunday on the Oscars, with co-hosts Regina Hall and Wanda Sykes – the first 3-female co-hosts for the show!

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Oakland woman 1st transgender contestant to qualify for ‘Jeopardy! Tournament of Champions’; Hopes to show trans kids they can too

Update on Amy Schneider: 40-game winning streak on Jeopardy! from November 2021 to January 2022, the second-longest win streak in the show’s history, behind only Ken Jennings, who hosted the show as she competed.

Oakland computer programmer Amy Schneider has won 6 Jeopardy! games so far, totaling $207,800. Kate Freeman was the first out transgender contestant to win in December of 2020, and Schneider is the first to qualify for the Tournament of Champions.

“The handful of trans contestants that had been on before, I had seen them, and it was really meaningful at that time to see trans people succeeding at this thing that I really wanted to succeed at,” she said. “What’s great is feeling like I’m now providing that same service for other trans people out there.”

Read more at “Transgender Oakland woman is a six-time ‘Jeopardy!’ champion” on SF Gate

Update:

After winning five games in a row, Amy Schneider became the first openly transgender contestant to qualify for the “Tournament of Champions” last week. On Tuesday night she became a 10-day champion. She wants to inspire others like she has been inspired:

“I am from Ohio where the only trans people I thought of were drag queens or prostitutes,” she said. “Seeing other trans women in a good spotlight inspired me to not be afraid of trying to compete in the thing I have always loved.”

“I am so incredibly grateful,” she said. “Hopefully I can send a positive message to the nerdy trans girl who wants to be on the show too.”

via “Oakland woman becomes 1st transgender contestant to qualify for ‘Jeopardy! Tournament of Champions'”

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You are better than enough

South Carolina, 1959. A nine-year old Black boy sat on a library counter refusing to leave until the librarian gave him his books. He did not care that the librarian had called the police. He was not phased that during this time in history, places of learning were staunchly segregated. He was unwavering as the police came marching in, confident that the knowledge he sought was rightfully his. And with courage and pride, Ronald E. McNair left the library unscathed with his books in hand, and his mother and brother by his side. Decades later, the Lake City Library would become the Dr. Ronald E. McNair Life History Center.

Read more about Dr. McNair on the Berkeley McNair Scholars Program

You are better than enough.

You might not come from the most well-to-do social background.

You may not have come from the most affluent background.

But if you are willing to work hard, sacrifice, and struggle,

then you are better than enough.

-Ronald E. McNair

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Do not judge by appearances…

“Do not judge by appearances; a rich heart may be under a poor coat.”
-Scottish Proverb

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Denmark fighting prejudice with The Human Library

The Human Library challenges stereotypes and prejudices through dialogue. The Human Library is a place where people are books on loan to readers for a chat.

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Why blend in when you were born to stand out

#BeYou

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CEO fired after publicly ridiculing Tennessee teen for his prom dress

A CEO of telemedicine company VisuWell in Tennessee, got fired for publicly making fun of male Franklin High School senior Dalton Stevens for wearing a dress to prom with his boyfriend.

Stevens felt good wearing it:

“I very much view clothes as genderless,” said Stevens.

“I was very confident,” Stevens said. “I knew that I felt beautiful, and I felt great.”

(via https://www.kron4.com/news/national/ceo-fired-after-publicly-ridiculing-tennessee-teen-over-his-prom-dress/ )

His boyfriend, Jacon Geittmann, supported him all the way:

“He did his big ‘prom-posal’ and asked me to prom,” said Jacob Geittman, Stevens’ boyfriend. “And he decided he was going to wear a dress, and I’m like, ‘Okay! You’re going to look good in it!’”

The harassment from the CEO, later identified as Sam Johnson, took place in downtown Franklin at the Harpeth Hotel, while Steven and Geittman were taking pictures.

“Slander terms thrown towards me of like ‘You look bad,’ ‘You’ve got hair on your chest, you shouldn’t be wearing a dress,’ ‘You’re not a man,’ blah, blah, blah,” Stevens explained. “The fact that he thought he had the audacity to come tell me what I was supposed to wear and what I was supposed to do because of his standards.”

..“I think clothing should just be taken as a piece of cloth and nothing more,” said Stevens. “Everybody should just wear what they want and shouldn’t be ashamed to wear anything because of societal standards.”

The public shaming was caught on cell phone video by Geittman, and Johnson was fired Monday.

“You can have your thoughts and opinions, [but] keep them to yourself,” Geittman said. “You don’t need to go up to a teenager in public on their prom night and publicly shame and harass them for what they decided to wear.”

VisuWell posted their support for the LGBTQ community on Twitter:

We share the concerns that so many have expressed on this matter and look forward to announcing concrete steps we are taking in support of the LGBTQ community in particular over the coming weeks.

#BeYou

 

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